Inherently Different

no crybabies

I have had a number of discussions lately about crying. One recently on a blog, but others with various people over the last few months on the phone or in person. I have yet to find anyone who absolutely agrees with my position. Often they might agree on one level, but not to the degree in which I present the situation.

It seems that there are a lot more apologists out there than I ever thought. Most people seem to think crying in public is ok or crying if certain conditions are met is forgivable. Being raised the way I was,  and searching deep within myself I have yet to find a good enough reason to change my mind about crying. Perhaps someday something will happen, but as of yet, nothing I have experienced has brought out the waterworks.

Before anyone thinks seeing people cry makes me feel uncomfortable, that’s not it. I just don’t see the value in wasting all that energy.

5 thoughts on “no crybabies”

  1. I’ve never been a big fan of crying in public. I understand it more from women, since (and yes, I’m generalizing here) they tend to be more emotional than men.

    The way I was raised, men don’t cry in public unless:

    1. It’s at their mother’s funeral (depending, of course, on whether they actually liked their mother)
    2. At the birth of a child
    3. When their team loses in the Super Bowl. And they were actually playing in the game.

    Other than that, rub some dirt on it and move on.

    • That sounds about right, Frank. Although, I have to say that I didn’t even cry at the birth of either of my children. What does that say about me?

      • I have to admit, I have two daughters and I cried at both of their births. It wasn’t anything I thought about one way or another, it was just an overwhelming, emotional experience that came out in tears. Not blubbering, mind you, but there were visible tears.

        But then again, I wasn’t the one laying on the table, pushing for 36 hours, either.

        • A real man would have hopped up on the table and HELPED her push!

          I can understand that the death of a family member, or the birth of a child are both prime examples of situations that can bring out the waterworks. But never having experienced either, I don’t know how I would react. I think a few rolling tears, so long as the emotional state is poised without any blubbering or gasping sobs, are ok… so long as no one can see you… wear big sunglasses.

        • Yea… I was pretty much too exhausted to cry at that point. I was also anxious, and wanted to know that they were healthy. I don’t cry when I’m anxious.
          (Good to know you weren’t blubbering, Frank)

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